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Massage is easy when you know how. I can show you how to amp up your back rubs in no time to make them longer, sexier and more relaxing… so you and your partner can get closer.
Let’s start with my top 10 Do’s and Don’ts for couples massage:
1. Don’t squirt oil directly onto your partner’s body
Squirting cold oil onto warm skin looks sexy in the movies, but feels like absolute rubbish in real life.
Always pour your oil into one hand first – around the size of a quarter will do it – and then rub your palms together to warm the oil up, before applying it to your partner’s body. Much, much sexier.
2. Do slow it down
I’m here to tell you, much like sex… there are no points for finishing first!
So many beginners tend to rush through their massage [like a spin cycle of a washing machine!].
Get your sweetie in the mood with gentle, easy-going strokes. Be chill.
Slowing down will also help you gain your partner’s trust right from the start, which equals deeper relaxation for everybody involved.
3. Don’t use your thumbs!
Aha, that one got you, didn’t it?!
Using thumbs is the quickest way to tire out your hands, so avoid using them at ALL… until the very end of the massage.
Start with an open hand technique with relaxation strokes and save your thumbs as your secret weapon – after a good ten minutes of this open-handed technique, only then you can bust out your thumbs in short bursts (I’m talking 30 seconds only at a time) on specific knots and tense bits to really make your partner melt.
4. Do ask for feedback
“Is that deep enough?”
Any good massage therapist will ask their client for feedback throughout a massage, and you should do the same.
Try things like…
“Is that deep enough?”
“How does this spot feel?”
“Where are you tight?”
Also listen out for moans and groans, oohs and aahs and the all-important “Oh baby, don’t stop!” while you massage; these signify that whatever you’re doing, you’re doing it right – so keep doing it!
5. Don’t massage without being prepared
Nothing kills the massage vibe like abandoning ship halfway through to dim lights, adjust the thermostat or grab a towel.
Have everything you need organized and close by before you begin. And turn your phone off!
6. Do contour your hands to your partner’s body
The more surface area you can touch, the better your massage will feel for your partner. When massaging, keep your fingertips and palms down and relaxed. If your hands are stiff or tense they won’t contour properly and your massage won’t feel natural.
7. Don’t underestimate the power of the ambiance
Your massage strokes account for only part of this experience. The ambiance you create in the room will make or break your massage. Seriously.
Tidy up your space so there’s no mess and clutter. No one in the history of the world has ever been able to relax while staring at a pile of laundry.
Then go the extra mile to make it all romantic-like by catering to all the different senses – light candles, play soft music, serve wine and chocolate… (you get the idea!)
8. Do give encouraging feedback when you’re being massaged
Positive reinforcement is the key.
Remember, your partner is new at this and any small motivation they have to to massage you will disappear in an instant if you’re going to be critical of their performance.
Positive reinforcement is the key. Be vocal. Tell them which parts you love about the massage and how great it feels – remember to throw out some oohs and maybe a few ahhs.
If something hurts or doesn’t feel right, tell them gently.
Trust me, you’ll be on the receiving end of many more massages with this approach!
9. Don’t go in deep at the start!
Too many couples make the mistake of getting right in there with a firm massage from the very beginning.
Unless your partner has just come off the football field and needs a vigorous leg rub – STAT! – there is no excuse for going too deep too fast.
Any good massage practitioner will start off gently every single time. This gives the muscles a chance to warm up first, to become pliable and to relax. Then, once you’ve got your partner to a nice, chilled out state you can begin to go in deep – always towards the end of the massage.
**This video talks about the 80/20 principle – a guide on relaxation vs deep tissue work.
10. Do massage on the floor
I know. You thought the bed was the most logical place to massage each other.
But I don’t like the bed for massage at all. The soft and uneven surface of the mattress is going to hurt your back, and your partner’s neck. The best position is for you to kneel on the floor with your partner sitting cross-legged between your knees – I call this The Melt Set Up.
You must have plenty of cushions bolstered under your butt to help keep your weight off your knees. In this position, you have great access to your partner’s neck, shoulders, arms and upper back… and it’s actually far more intimate than having your sweetie at arm’s length from you.
To find out more about The Melt Set Up, try my FREE introductory massage course, Fix Your Massage Mistakes. In it, I teach you how to set yourself up for a great back rub at home, we correct the 4 most common mistakes I see couples making and I share two great massage techniques you can try at home instantly.
Learn how to give the best back rubs!
We deep dive into massage techniques, break down what makes a great back rub and show you step by step what to do to be amazing at massage! After 12 years teaching over 30,000 couples in more than 50 countries we know a thing or two that’ll take your back rubs to the next level…
No matter if you’ve been rocking back rubs with each other for years now – or you’re a complete beginner, I promise this course will give you years of “ooh’s” and “ahh’s” while your partner massages you into total bliss!
Could your back rubs do with an upgrade? Maybe you feel like your massages are boring, you’re not sure if you’re doing it right, or you don’t know what to do next. Or maybe your hands just flat out hurt after a few minutes.
Never fear, massage isn’t rocket science. It’s easy when you know how and where to rub.
Here are six simple hacks from a professional (that’s me) who wants to help you get your hands to their A-game… Why? Because massage feels so good and I believe every relationship deserves a little massage in it!
1. Romance your partner’s body
Simple, easy and makes you look like a pro… FAST!
For serious brownie points without hurting your hands, spend time doing what I call romancing your partner’s body!
This is easy to do with a simple contouring technique – it feels fantastic, your partner will love you for it and it’s the best cost-benefit way to clock up brownie points in your massage!
Here’s a video explaining how to go about doing it:
**Skip to 1:29 if you want to miss the reason why my hands are cut up and broken
2. Use your own body to discover knots
Wondering exactly where the tense spots are hiding? Well guess what… you already know! On healthy bodies, we pretty much all have knots and tension in the same places.
Right now, can you think of two areas on your body you love massaged?
I’ll bet money that you’re thinking shoulders…
So go there after you’ve romanced your partner’s body first!
This is such a simple hack when you’re thinking your massages are boring, or you’re not sure where to massage next… just ask yourself “Where do I hurt?”
3. Warm hands solve almost every issue
Sounds obvious right? But it’s often overlooked!
It seems like a small thing, but warming your hands up makes a massive difference to the experience. Cold hands on warm skin is a major turn off!
I had a professional practitioner lay freezing hands on me during a job interview once (yes, you have to test their massage out before they get the job!) – I didn’t hire her, that’s far too sloppy a mistake to make.
Warming your hands is an easy fix that starts your massage off right. Warm them by rubbing your palms vigorously together, or run them under a hot tap for a bit, dry them off and then get oiling!
4. Get your sexy game face on
You know how John Mayer has guitar face? You need sexy massage face!
I’m not even kidding – the more you get into it, the better it feels. It doesn’t matter if you look ridiculous, no one is watching.
Sexy massage face is closely related to stank face?!
Here’s a classic example of mine, a moment in time caught on film forever (and yes, I’ve been called out for this before, publicly too! But that’s fine… all I care about is making my partner as relaxed as possible. Her face in this image means more to me than any humiliating comments on social media).
This also goes for your body language – shake that butt! Any movement from your hips and shoulders translates to your hands, and makes your massage flow.
5. Use the music to introduce rhythm and flow
Rhythm and flow is one of the next level tricks that takes a massage from amateur to professional.
Most couples I see would say it’s deep tissue that makes or breaks the massage… this is not true!
Deep tissue means nothing without rhythm and flow. Introduce a little into your back rubs by massaging in time to the music. Pick something you both already groove to.
6. Follow a routine to guarantee awesomeness
This is the thing that improved my massage quickest when I first started.
Work out in advance what your routine will be. It takes the pressure off thinking about what to do next.
Take a few minutes to write a little sequential massage routine out (or you can follow mine – I’ve got 5 minute, 15 minute and a 30 minute back rub routine in the Melt Video Series – click here), having a cheat sheet like this next to you will make your hands feel pro!
When starting out, following a routine is the best way to guarantee an exceptional massage… when you know your routine inside out – to the point that you’re bored with it, then you’re at an exceptional level. Then it’s time to start improvising and making up routines on the fly – the way professional massage therapists do it.
Learn how to give the best back rubs!
We deep dive into massage techniques, break down what makes a great back rub and show you step by step what to do to be amazing at massage! After 12 years teaching over 30,000 couples in more than 50 countries we know a thing or two that’ll take your back rubs to the next level…
No matter if you’ve been rocking back rubs with each other for years now – or you’re a complete beginner, I promise this course will give you years of “ooh’s” and “ahh’s” while your partner massages you into total bliss!
Do you ever feel like you cannot get the technique perfectly right?
One of the best massage techniques I’ll teach you is called the Basic Stroke – and it really is truly basic. Problem is that usually women cannot complete the massage stroke on their man when their man has broad shoulders and they have a smaller frame.
THE SOLUTION:
This is easy… focus on the hug! This is more important than reaching all the way down the arms.
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If you’re already a lifetime member of Melt: Massage for Couples, then you’ve made gifting very easy for yourself this Christmas!
Treating your partner to a little massaging will no doubt make them smile, and it won’t cost you a thing.
Every year on my wife’s birthday I give her a full, proper massage along with her gift. It’s something I can do with my own two hands, it doesn’t take much thought, effort or time on my behalf but the payoff is so much more because she feels pampered and loved by this one simple gesture.
So what if, along with your spouse’s other gifts this year, you gave them an IOU voucher for a massage?
Christmas Day itself can get a little crazy but you might be able to find some time after everyone has gone to bed, or the next day at home. Or they can simply save their massage voucher for anytime they feel they need one!
We’ve made it extra easy for you with our series of cute Christmas ‘IOU a Massage’ printables. They are free for you to download and print.
Here’s exactly how to make a massage a special gift that you can actually put under the tree or into their stocking this year.
Click the button below to download the file, find your favorite one and have it printed and trimmed to size on high quality paper at your local print shop, or do it yourself at home if you have the tools. Pop it into a square envelope or simply wrap the voucher right up into paper. Voila, you have a meaningful stocking stuffer!
This next part is optional. To make this gift even more special, I suggest finding a token present you can wrap alongside it.
Massage oil is a natural choice – you’re going to be needing it anyway! Oil is cheap and easy to source at the grocery store or drugstore, or online. We’ve hunted around to find you some online options so you can simply click and have it delivered in time for Christmas.
Other options to gift alongside your IOU printable are scented candles and maybe even a soft hand towel (handy for wiping off oil).
If you’ve been massaging a little while with Melt, you probably have your favorite oil sorted already.
We’re a fan of plain carrier oils at Melt, they’re simple and natural.
What we like about carrier oils / base oils is that they’re made from the one product, for example: Almond Oil, Apricot or Grapeseed Oil. If you’re allergic to Almonds use Apricot or Grapeseed.
Oil blends will include a number of different oils and will usually come with a scent too.
A note if you’re buying scented oils: Be careful that neither you nor your partner have sensitive skin that will react with blended essential oils, or any aversion at all to certain essential oils (some aren’t suitable for pregnancy, for example). Do your research first. If you’re not sure about sensitivities or contraindications, you’re best to stick to 100% apricot oil.
Carrier Oils
From Amazon, there’s the Kusala Life Sweet Almond Oil with its earthy, upmarket packaging and a great product to boot, with a little hint of Vitamin E in there for extra skin nourishing. It’s sourced from Non-GMO Almond kernels and it’s sub-$20. Here’s a slightly more masculine packaging with the Primitive Sweet Almond Oil – a great choice if you’re gifting it to the man in your life. Also all natural, also under $20. This Beauty Aura 100% Pure Grapeseed Oil is a good lower cost alternative at the $11 mark – again, all natural with no nasties and great for sensitive skins. I also really love the Hugo Naturals brand with their all-natural ingredients in both a plain carrier oil and also some exotic scent combinations.
Your Cheapest Carrier Oil on Amazon
This 4oz bottle of Apricot Oil will work perfectly if you’re looking for something on a budget. It’s a small bottle yet enough to get you through several massages together. It’s 100% natural, cold pressed and the perfect consistency for massage. It’s our number one choice when looking for a budget oil. Get it here from Amazon for around $5 delivered.
Blended Oils
If you’re looking for a seriously sexy massage blend, the guys at Shunga do an amazing job of quality, natural massage oils. Try the one in Exotic Fruits ($13.81) for a high octane dose of aphrodisiac. Or for something deeply romantic try the Now Foods Tranquil Massage Oil ($9.37) for its rose scent and healing properties.
That’s it! You’re done. An easy, cheap and thoughtful gift that your partner will love finding in their stocking on Christmas morning. Then you just need to pop on your Melt videos and make good on the promise!
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Learning to massage is the perfect romantic Christmas gift for your partner – after a long year, who wouldn’t want to relax together in the living room and get extra close with a little back rub?
Give your partner a lifetime membership to our Melt: Massage for Couples video series and watch them light up.
We’ve made it extra easy for you with our series of cute Christmas printables. Here’s exactly how to make Melt a special gift for under the tree this year.
We’ve created a series of three Christmas massage printables you can choose from – and they’re free! Simply download your favorite one and have it printed and trimmed to size on high quality paper at your local print shop. Source a square envelope or just wrap the voucher right up into paper.
To make this gift really special, we suggest finding something to accompany the voucher that you can wrap and present alongside it. Massage oil is a natural choice – you’re going to be needing it anyway to get started on your massaging together! If you already have oils at home – then you’re good to go. If not – below are some resources for you.
There are some gorgeous massage oil options (we’ve listed a few favorites below) – pick one up while you’re at the mall or have it delivered from the internet and present it nestled into a box with some tissue paper for a gorgeous gift.
Consider adding some scented candles and maybe even a soft hand towel (handy for wiping off oil) if you’re wanting something extra.
A good quality massage oil is easy to find – you can pick it up at the drugstore or the grocery store. We’re a fan of plain carrier oils at Melt, they’re simple and natural (but of course, there are also some beautiful blended, scented oils out there too).
What we like about carrier oils / base oils is that they’re made from the one product, for example: Almond Oil, Apricot or Grapeseed Oil. If you’re allergic to Almonds use Apricot or Grapeseed.
Oil blends will include a number of different oils and will usually come with a scent too. Be careful that neither you nor your partner have sensitive skin that will react with blended essential oils, or any aversion at all to certain essential oils (some aren’t suitable for pregnancy, for example). Do your research first. If you’re not sure about sensitivities or contraindications, you’re best to stick to 100% apricot oil.
Carrier Oils
From Amazon, there’s the Kusala Life Sweet Almond Oil with its earthy, upmarket packaging and a great product to boot, with a little hint of Vitamin E in there for extra skin nourishing. It’s sourced from Non-GMO Almond kernels and it’s sub-$20. Here’s a slightly more masculine packaging with the Primitive Sweet Almond Oil – a great choice if you’re gifting Melt to the man in your life. Also all natural, also under $20. This Beauty Aura 100% Pure Grapeseed Oil is a good lower cost alternative at the $11 mark – again, all natural with no nasties and great for sensitive skins. I also really love the Hugo Naturals brand with their all-natural ingredients in both a plain carrier oil and also some exotic scent combinations.
Your Cheapest Carrier Oil on Amazon
This 4oz bottle of Apricot Oil will work perfectly if you’re looking for something on a budget. It’s a small bottle yet enough to get you through several massages together. It’s 100% natural, cold pressed and the perfect consistency for massage. It’s Denis’ choice when looking for a budget oil. Get it here from Amazon for under $5 delivered.
Blended Oils
If you’re looking for a seriously sexy massage blend, the guys at Shunga do an amazing job of quality, natural massage oils. Try the one in Exotic Fruits ($13.81) for a high octane dose of aphrodisiac. Or for something deeply romantic try the Now Foods Tranquil Massage Oil ($9.37) for its rose scent and healing properties.
Step 3
Get a lifetime membership to Melt: Massage for Couples (+ Free Foot Rub!)
Finally, get a lifetime membership for yourself and your partner to our Melt: Massage for Couples video series. We’ll teach you all the secrets of an amazing massage with our signature massage techniques and sequences. Make this Christmas a little more special with a unique way to connect, be more playful and show that you care.
When you buy Melt, you’ll have it forever and you can watch it, use it and massage each other as many times as you like.
Learn in the comfort of your own living room. It makes a great stay home date night for two and it’s the gift that keeps on giving. By the end, you’ll be able to give your partner a delicious 30-minute back rub… and they’ll know how to rub you right, too!
For Christmas, we’re offering a bonus free foot rub video with every lifetime membership to Melt. This is going to be your most romantic holiday yet… snuggle up beneath the tree and learn to make each other melt.
How to Make Your Massage More Desirable
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Q&A: What If I Can’t Massage in The Melt Set Up?
10 Massage Do’s and Don’ts for Couples
Massage is easy when you know how. I can show you how to amp up your back rubs in no time to make them longer, sexier and more relaxing… so you and your partner can get closer.
Let’s start with my top 10 Do’s and Don’ts for couples massage:
1. Don’t squirt oil directly onto your partner’s body
Squirting cold oil onto warm skin looks sexy in the movies, but feels like absolute rubbish in real life.
Always pour your oil into one hand first – around the size of a quarter will do it – and then rub your palms together to warm the oil up, before applying it to your partner’s body. Much, much sexier.
2. Do slow it down
I’m here to tell you, much like sex… there are no points for finishing first!
So many beginners tend to rush through their massage [like a spin cycle of a washing machine!].
Get your sweetie in the mood with gentle, easy-going strokes. Be chill.
Slowing down will also help you gain your partner’s trust right from the start, which equals deeper relaxation for everybody involved.
3. Don’t use your thumbs!
Aha, that one got you, didn’t it?!
Using thumbs is the quickest way to tire out your hands, so avoid using them at ALL… until the very end of the massage.
Start with an open hand technique with relaxation strokes and save your thumbs as your secret weapon – after a good ten minutes of this open-handed technique, only then you can bust out your thumbs in short bursts (I’m talking 30 seconds only at a time) on specific knots and tense bits to really make your partner melt.
4. Do ask for feedback
“Is that deep enough?”
Any good massage therapist will ask their client for feedback throughout a massage, and you should do the same.
Try things like…
“Is that deep enough?”
“How does this spot feel?”
“Where are you tight?”
Also listen out for moans and groans, oohs and aahs and the all-important “Oh baby, don’t stop!” while you massage; these signify that whatever you’re doing, you’re doing it right – so keep doing it!
5. Don’t massage without being prepared
Nothing kills the massage vibe like abandoning ship halfway through to dim lights, adjust the thermostat or grab a towel.
Have everything you need organized and close by before you begin. And turn your phone off!
6. Do contour your hands to your partner’s body
The more surface area you can touch, the better your massage will feel for your partner. When massaging, keep your fingertips and palms down and relaxed. If your hands are stiff or tense they won’t contour properly and your massage won’t feel natural.
7. Don’t underestimate the power of the ambiance
Your massage strokes account for only part of this experience. The ambiance you create in the room will make or break your massage. Seriously.
Tidy up your space so there’s no mess and clutter. No one in the history of the world has ever been able to relax while staring at a pile of laundry.
Then go the extra mile to make it all romantic-like by catering to all the different senses – light candles, play soft music, serve wine and chocolate… (you get the idea!)
8. Do give encouraging feedback when you’re being massaged
Positive reinforcement is the key.
Remember, your partner is new at this and any small motivation they have to to massage you will disappear in an instant if you’re going to be critical of their performance.
Positive reinforcement is the key. Be vocal. Tell them which parts you love about the massage and how great it feels – remember to throw out some oohs and maybe a few ahhs.
If something hurts or doesn’t feel right, tell them gently.
Trust me, you’ll be on the receiving end of many more massages with this approach!
9. Don’t go in deep at the start!
Too many couples make the mistake of getting right in there with a firm massage from the very beginning.
Unless your partner has just come off the football field and needs a vigorous leg rub – STAT! – there is no excuse for going too deep too fast.
Any good massage practitioner will start off gently every single time. This gives the muscles a chance to warm up first, to become pliable and to relax. Then, once you’ve got your partner to a nice, chilled out state you can begin to go in deep – always towards the end of the massage.
**This video talks about the 80/20 principle – a guide on relaxation vs deep tissue work.
10. Do massage on the floor
I know. You thought the bed was the most logical place to massage each other.
But I don’t like the bed for massage at all. The soft and uneven surface of the mattress is going to hurt your back, and your partner’s neck. The best position is for you to kneel on the floor with your partner sitting cross-legged between your knees – I call this The Melt Set Up.
You must have plenty of cushions bolstered under your butt to help keep your weight off your knees. In this position, you have great access to your partner’s neck, shoulders, arms and upper back… and it’s actually far more intimate than having your sweetie at arm’s length from you.
To find out more about The Melt Set Up, try my FREE introductory massage course, Fix Your Massage Mistakes. In it, I teach you how to set yourself up for a great back rub at home, we correct the 4 most common mistakes I see couples making and I share two great massage techniques you can try at home instantly.
Learn how to give the best back rubs!
We deep dive into massage techniques, break down what makes a great back rub and show you step by step what to do to be amazing at massage! After 12 years teaching over 30,000 couples in more than 50 countries we know a thing or two that’ll take your back rubs to the next level…
No matter if you’ve been rocking back rubs with each other for years now – or you’re a complete beginner, I promise this course will give you years of “ooh’s” and “ahh’s” while your partner massages you into total bliss!
START HERE
6 Couples Massage Hacks for Beginners
Could your back rubs do with an upgrade? Maybe you feel like your massages are boring, you’re not sure if you’re doing it right, or you don’t know what to do next. Or maybe your hands just flat out hurt after a few minutes.
Never fear, massage isn’t rocket science. It’s easy when you know how and where to rub.
Here are six simple hacks from a professional (that’s me) who wants to help you get your hands to their A-game… Why? Because massage feels so good and I believe every relationship deserves a little massage in it!
1. Romance your partner’s body
Simple, easy and makes you look like a pro… FAST!
For serious brownie points without hurting your hands, spend time doing what I call romancing your partner’s body!
This is easy to do with a simple contouring technique – it feels fantastic, your partner will love you for it and it’s the best cost-benefit way to clock up brownie points in your massage!
Here’s a video explaining how to go about doing it:
**Skip to 1:29 if you want to miss the reason why my hands are cut up and broken
2. Use your own body to discover knots
Wondering exactly where the tense spots are hiding? Well guess what… you already know! On healthy bodies, we pretty much all have knots and tension in the same places.
Right now, can you think of two areas on your body you love massaged?
I’ll bet money that you’re thinking shoulders…
So go there after you’ve romanced your partner’s body first!
This is such a simple hack when you’re thinking your massages are boring, or you’re not sure where to massage next… just ask yourself “Where do I hurt?”
3. Warm hands solve almost every issue
Sounds obvious right? But it’s often overlooked!
It seems like a small thing, but warming your hands up makes a massive difference to the experience. Cold hands on warm skin is a major turn off!
I had a professional practitioner lay freezing hands on me during a job interview once (yes, you have to test their massage out before they get the job!) – I didn’t hire her, that’s far too sloppy a mistake to make.
Warming your hands is an easy fix that starts your massage off right. Warm them by rubbing your palms vigorously together, or run them under a hot tap for a bit, dry them off and then get oiling!
4. Get your sexy game face on
You know how John Mayer has guitar face? You need sexy massage face!
I’m not even kidding – the more you get into it, the better it feels. It doesn’t matter if you look ridiculous, no one is watching.
Sexy massage face is closely related to stank face?!
Here’s a classic example of mine, a moment in time caught on film forever (and yes, I’ve been called out for this before, publicly too! But that’s fine… all I care about is making my partner as relaxed as possible. Her face in this image means more to me than any humiliating comments on social media).
This also goes for your body language – shake that butt! Any movement from your hips and shoulders translates to your hands, and makes your massage flow.
5. Use the music to introduce rhythm and flow
Rhythm and flow is one of the next level tricks that takes a massage from amateur to professional.
Most couples I see would say it’s deep tissue that makes or breaks the massage… this is not true!
Deep tissue means nothing without rhythm and flow. Introduce a little into your back rubs by massaging in time to the music. Pick something you both already groove to.
6. Follow a routine to guarantee awesomeness
This is the thing that improved my massage quickest when I first started.
Work out in advance what your routine will be. It takes the pressure off thinking about what to do next.
Take a few minutes to write a little sequential massage routine out (or you can follow mine – I’ve got 5 minute, 15 minute and a 30 minute back rub routine in the Melt Video Series – click here), having a cheat sheet like this next to you will make your hands feel pro!
When starting out, following a routine is the best way to guarantee an exceptional massage… when you know your routine inside out – to the point that you’re bored with it, then you’re at an exceptional level. Then it’s time to start improvising and making up routines on the fly – the way professional massage therapists do it.
Learn how to give the best back rubs!
We deep dive into massage techniques, break down what makes a great back rub and show you step by step what to do to be amazing at massage! After 12 years teaching over 30,000 couples in more than 50 countries we know a thing or two that’ll take your back rubs to the next level…
No matter if you’ve been rocking back rubs with each other for years now – or you’re a complete beginner, I promise this course will give you years of “ooh’s” and “ahh’s” while your partner massages you into total bliss!
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What If I Cannot Reach His Hands
One of the best massage techniques I’ll teach you is called the Basic Stroke – and it really is truly basic. Problem is that usually women cannot complete the massage stroke on their man when their man has broad shoulders and they have a smaller frame.
THE SOLUTION:
This is easy… focus on the hug! This is more important than reaching all the way down the arms.
The Most Important Massage Tip I’ll Ever Teach You
This is soooo easy to do! Anyone can pick it up and do it:
Enjoy!
How to Massage Deeper Without Hurting Your Hands
How To Massage Deeper Without Hurting Your Hands
In this tutorial we talk about how to structure your massage routine so that your hands don’t hurt as much.
Simple easy advice to help you last longer than 3 minutes before your hands give up and thumbs run away.
Gifting a Massage for Christmas
If you’re already a lifetime member of Melt: Massage for Couples, then you’ve made gifting very easy for yourself this Christmas!
Treating your partner to a little massaging will no doubt make them smile, and it won’t cost you a thing.
Every year on my wife’s birthday I give her a full, proper massage along with her gift. It’s something I can do with my own two hands, it doesn’t take much thought, effort or time on my behalf but the payoff is so much more because she feels pampered and loved by this one simple gesture.
So what if, along with your spouse’s other gifts this year, you gave them an IOU voucher for a massage?
Christmas Day itself can get a little crazy but you might be able to find some time after everyone has gone to bed, or the next day at home. Or they can simply save their massage voucher for anytime they feel they need one!
We’ve made it extra easy for you with our series of cute Christmas ‘IOU a Massage’ printables. They are free for you to download and print.
Here’s exactly how to make a massage a special gift that you can actually put under the tree or into their stocking this year.
Adorable Christmas Vouchers
Click the button below to download the file, find your favorite one and have it printed and trimmed to size on high quality paper at your local print shop, or do it yourself at home if you have the tools. Pop it into a square envelope or simply wrap the voucher right up into paper. Voila, you have a meaningful stocking stuffer!
Wrap Up Some Massage Oil (Optional)
This next part is optional. To make this gift even more special, I suggest finding a token present you can wrap alongside it.
Massage oil is a natural choice – you’re going to be needing it anyway! Oil is cheap and easy to source at the grocery store or drugstore, or online. We’ve hunted around to find you some online options so you can simply click and have it delivered in time for Christmas.
Other options to gift alongside your IOU printable are scented candles and maybe even a soft hand towel (handy for wiping off oil).
If you’ve been massaging a little while with Melt, you probably have your favorite oil sorted already.
We’re a fan of plain carrier oils at Melt, they’re simple and natural.
What we like about carrier oils / base oils is that they’re made from the one product, for example: Almond Oil, Apricot or Grapeseed Oil. If you’re allergic to Almonds use Apricot or Grapeseed.
Oil blends will include a number of different oils and will usually come with a scent too.
A note if you’re buying scented oils: Be careful that neither you nor your partner have sensitive skin that will react with blended essential oils, or any aversion at all to certain essential oils (some aren’t suitable for pregnancy, for example). Do your research first. If you’re not sure about sensitivities or contraindications, you’re best to stick to 100% apricot oil.
Carrier Oils
Your Cheapest Carrier Oil on Amazon
This 4oz bottle of Apricot Oil will work perfectly if you’re looking for something on a budget. It’s a small bottle yet enough to get you through several massages together. It’s 100% natural, cold pressed and the perfect consistency for massage. It’s our number one choice when looking for a budget oil. Get it here from Amazon for around $5 delivered.
Blended Oils
If you’re looking for a seriously sexy massage blend, the guys at Shunga do an amazing job of quality, natural massage oils. Try the one in Exotic Fruits ($13.81) for a high octane dose of aphrodisiac. Or for something deeply romantic try the Now Foods Tranquil Massage Oil ($9.37) for its rose scent and healing properties.
That’s it! You’re done. An easy, cheap and thoughtful gift that your partner will love finding in their stocking on Christmas morning. Then you just need to pop on your Melt videos and make good on the promise!
Gifting Melt: Massage for Couples for Christmas
Learning to massage is the perfect romantic Christmas gift for your partner – after a long year, who wouldn’t want to relax together in the living room and get extra close with a little back rub?
Give your partner a lifetime membership to our Melt: Massage for Couples video series and watch them light up.
We’ve made it extra easy for you with our series of cute Christmas printables. Here’s exactly how to make Melt a special gift for under the tree this year.
Adorable Christmas Vouchers
We’ve created a series of three Christmas massage printables you can choose from – and they’re free! Simply download your favorite one and have it printed and trimmed to size on high quality paper at your local print shop. Source a square envelope or just wrap the voucher right up into paper.
Wrap Up Some Massage Oil
To make this gift really special, we suggest finding something to accompany the voucher that you can wrap and present alongside it. Massage oil is a natural choice – you’re going to be needing it anyway to get started on your massaging together! If you already have oils at home – then you’re good to go. If not – below are some resources for you.
There are some gorgeous massage oil options (we’ve listed a few favorites below) – pick one up while you’re at the mall or have it delivered from the internet and present it nestled into a box with some tissue paper for a gorgeous gift.
Consider adding some scented candles and maybe even a soft hand towel (handy for wiping off oil) if you’re wanting something extra.
A good quality massage oil is easy to find – you can pick it up at the drugstore or the grocery store. We’re a fan of plain carrier oils at Melt, they’re simple and natural (but of course, there are also some beautiful blended, scented oils out there too).
What we like about carrier oils / base oils is that they’re made from the one product, for example: Almond Oil, Apricot or Grapeseed Oil. If you’re allergic to Almonds use Apricot or Grapeseed.
Oil blends will include a number of different oils and will usually come with a scent too. Be careful that neither you nor your partner have sensitive skin that will react with blended essential oils, or any aversion at all to certain essential oils (some aren’t suitable for pregnancy, for example). Do your research first. If you’re not sure about sensitivities or contraindications, you’re best to stick to 100% apricot oil.
Carrier Oils
Your Cheapest Carrier Oil on Amazon
This 4oz bottle of Apricot Oil will work perfectly if you’re looking for something on a budget. It’s a small bottle yet enough to get you through several massages together. It’s 100% natural, cold pressed and the perfect consistency for massage. It’s Denis’ choice when looking for a budget oil. Get it here from Amazon for under $5 delivered.
Blended Oils
If you’re looking for a seriously sexy massage blend, the guys at Shunga do an amazing job of quality, natural massage oils. Try the one in Exotic Fruits ($13.81) for a high octane dose of aphrodisiac. Or for something deeply romantic try the Now Foods Tranquil Massage Oil ($9.37) for its rose scent and healing properties.
Get a lifetime membership to Melt: Massage for Couples (+ Free Foot Rub!)
Finally, get a lifetime membership for yourself and your partner to our Melt: Massage for Couples video series. We’ll teach you all the secrets of an amazing massage with our signature massage techniques and sequences. Make this Christmas a little more special with a unique way to connect, be more playful and show that you care.
When you buy Melt, you’ll have it forever and you can watch it, use it and massage each other as many times as you like.
Learn in the comfort of your own living room. It makes a great stay home date night for two and it’s the gift that keeps on giving. By the end, you’ll be able to give your partner a delicious 30-minute back rub… and they’ll know how to rub you right, too!
For Christmas, we’re offering a bonus free foot rub video with every lifetime membership to Melt. This is going to be your most romantic holiday yet… snuggle up beneath the tree and learn to make each other melt.
When you purchase Melt + Foot Rub – additional gift printables are available in your account.