Something magical happens when we give our relationships the time and space to bloom together.

Imagine feeling more connected to your partner in every way, being completely secure in your relationship knowing that what you have is rock solid.

This kind of intimacy can only be built over time, by giving yourself and your partner the opportunity to be together with no other distractions or people, on a consistent basis. Even if you’re having a terrible week, you know you will have time to touch base with your partner no matter what. It’s a feeling of wonderful support and connection.

“Us time” often falls by the wayside in long term relationships. It’s very easy to let all our other responsibilities creep in.

We push our marriages further and further down our To Do list and before we know it, we have are feeling disconnected from the very person who matters most to us.

Denis and I have been together for ten years now, and we constantly remind ourselves that longevity doesn’t guarantee happiness or closeness.

Cultivating intimacy is crucial to a marriage at any stage – and the longer we are together, the harder it is to nurture that connection without some careful planning.

It’s not at all romantic, but the truth is that as your relationship goes on, you need to work that much more at it, to ensure you can be at your happiest in your marriage.

The best way to do this is create a framework around how and when you spend time together.

Because if you don’t take the time, you’ll never have the time.

Here is how to get some more “us” time in your own marriage.

Develop rituals

Many of our couples tell us they love simple things like walking the dog, giggling and chatting in bed together at the end of a hard day or going to the farmer’s market. Or, you know, develop a regular massage practice! These small rituals are easy to do, and create very little barrier to your consistency.

Den and I love to take walks through our neighbourhood. We grab a takeaway coffee and go exploring while we catch up on what’s happening in each other’s lives. It’s a nice way to give ourselves some relaxed space to chat, and you always feel great when you get back from a long walk.

Find a ritual that can become a habit for the two of you. If you already have one, perhaps a second and a third one will work for you too?

Learn a new skill

Is there something you’ve both always wanted to do? Learn French, perhaps? Take up art class? Become a master of Asian cuisine?

Sign yourselves up to learn this new skill together and suddenly you have ready-made date nights every week to attend. You’ll both enjoy the learning and have something new to talk about and inspire you as well.

Get physical

I was surprised by the amount of couples recently who told us they love to do physical activities together and I think it’s such a brilliant idea. You keep yourself happy and your marriage happy at the same time – what great multi-tasking!

Exercise releases endorphins and gives you a great sense of wellbeing. Whether it’s hiking, biking, swimming, tennis or kayaking, find something that you can enjoy together and do it at least once a week.

Be spiritual

Your spiritual connection is one of the most enriching parts of your life, and it’s a beautiful thing to be able to share it with your partner.

For some couples this means praying, for others it’s meditation or reading teachings. Whichever way you express your spirituality, doing it together creates a powerful space for you to grow your connection.

Have stay home date nights

Time and money are always two of the biggest reasons couples cite for not spending more time together.

Having young children can also make it hard (and expensive!) to go out.

This is why we love at home date nights where you consciously make some “us” time but you don’t ever have to leave your living room!

Some rules for at home date nights: no phones, no computers, no interruptions. Try for when the kids are asleep – or if they’re a bit older you can let them know it’s date night and they’ll most likely keep away anyhow! – and do something new and fun each time.

A challenge…

In fact, Den and I love this idea so much that we’d like you to schedule some time within the next week for a stay home date night. Not kidding.

Right now, turn to your partner or text them or email them or call them and ask them if you can take them on a date night… without ever leaving the house!

What to do, you ask? Well, if you already have any of our couples massage tutorials then make it a gorgeous massage night for two, complete with candles, music and perhaps even a picnic on the living room floor!

Or find an idea from one of these 52 Ridiculously Romantic Date Ideas we collated just for you.


Do you know what your wonderful wife deserves for Mother’s Day this year? A sensational foot rub. And I know just the man to do it! (Yes, I mean you!)

She’s on her feet all day, after all. Whether its running after those rascals you two created, strutting through the office in heels, being up in the gym just working on her fitness… whatever it is your baby mama does on a daily basis in her life, we can guarantee she will melt for a foot massage.

You’ll start by learning the art of the perfect foot rub with our couples massage videos. Don’t worry, it only takes a few minutes to learn – and you can just pop them on your smart TV, laptop or device and follow along on the spot while your queen lounges on the couch and soaks up the pampering.

We suggest delivering a Mother’s Day foot rub right after your breakfast in bed ritual, before she’s even gotten up. She can recline into her pillows and bliss out while you treat her to a gorgeous massage.

We have gift vouchers available but we also recommend packaging the voucher with some thoughtful wrapped items that will help make her foot massage experience that much better.

Here are our top picks for what to wrap up this Mother’s Day with your foot rub voucher:

1. Massage Oil

We love massaging with massage oil. It can’t be beaten for a quality rub, it provides just the right amount of glide and will last through the massage without sinking into the skin.

A good quality massage oil is easy to find – you can pick it up at the drugstore or the grocery store. We’re a fan of plain carrier oils at Melt, though there are also some beautiful blended oils out there. Just be careful that neither you nor your partner have sensitive skin that will react with blended essential oils, or any aversion at all to certain essential oils (some aren’t suitable for pregnancy, for example). Do your research first. If you’re not sure about sensitivities or contraindications, you’re best to stick to plain sweet almond or grapeseed oil. Don’t worry, there are still some wonderful options.

hugos-massage-oil From Amazon, there’s the Kusala Life Sweet Almond Oil with its earthy, upmarket packaging and a great product to boot, with a little hint of Vitamin E in there for extra skin nourishing. It’s sourced from Non-GMO Almond kernels and it’s sub-$20. This Beauty Aura 100% Pure Grapeseed Oil is a good lower cost alternative at the $11 mark – again, all natural with no nasties and great for sensitive skins. I also really love the Hugo Naturals brand with their all-natural ingredients in both a plain carrier oil and also some exotic scent combinations.

2. Luxurious Foot Cream

While we always recommend massaging with oil, you can get away with using a gorgeous cream on an area as small as the foot. You may have to apply quite a bit… But what works best is if you complete most of your massage with a massage oil like the ones listed above and finish your massage by slathering some cream on at the very end to help soothe her feet. Make sure your foot cream application is incorporated as part of your massage – don’t just slap and dash! Here are some excellent options.


L’Occitane Shea Butter Foot Cream, 5.2 oz $28

Lavender, arnica and cooling mint make for a soothing addition to pure shea butter in this luxurious French foot cream. An absolute favorite of Beauty Editors everywhere, it comes in a beautiful box to make it even more special and will banish any rough spots from feet in just one week.


AHAVA Dead Sea Mud Dermud Intensive Foot Cream, 3.4 fl. oz. $21.20

Dead Sea Mud is known for improving skin’s natural processes, easing pain, relaxing muscles and providing inner calmness. Ahava formulates their products without parabens and harsh ingredients and they’re allergy tested and approved for event the most sensitive skin.


bliss Aloe Leaf + Peppermint Foot Patrol, 2.5 fl. oz. $18

This little beauty from cult spa Bliss packs triple active ingredients like salicylic acid and peppermint in for instant softening and refreshening of even the most tired feet. All at the sub-$20 price point!

3. Something Soft & Fluffy

At the very end, once you’ve rubbed her feet, tugged her toes and blissed her out, keep her tootsies cozy with a soft pair of socks or slippers. The traditional Mother’s Day present just got better.


Borghese Spa Socks Revitalizing Foot Care, $41.37

These aren’t just any socks – they’re super socks! Lined with a special polymer layer, the Borgehese spa socks deliver hydration to the feet just by wearing them! Pop them on the feet right before or right after a massage to help soften skin with no effort whatsoever. Infused with olive, jojoba and grapeseed oil to renew and smooth.


My Fashion Creations Teal Cable Knitted Socks, $28.99

After you’ve delivered an amazing foot rub and wiped off her feet, encase them snugly in these handmade socks. Knitted from a comfortable cotton and spandex blend, they are one size fits all and will work perfectly under boots or just for keeping legs warm around the house as slippers.


Airee Fairee® Slipper Boot Faux Fur Lined with Pom Poms, $15

While slippers are the classic Mother’s Day gift, not all slippers are created equal. For one, they’re not the most graceful item of clothing to wear. These ones, however, are a super cute option complete with pom poms that will keep Mom’s freshly-massaged feet warm and snug.

4. Something Beautiful

Make your woman feel like a Queen at the end of your massage by adorning her feet with one of these glamorous gifts.


Lovmely Anklet Triple Chain Turquoise, Coral, or White, 22k Gold Wire Wrapped, $50

There’s something very sexy about foot jewelry. Anklets and toe rings are the perfect accessory with summertime coming up to dress up a pair of flip flops or flat sandals. This handmade number from Lovmely at Etsy comes in a range of colours and is a simply stunning option for any woman with a Boho vibe.


Chanel Le Vernis Nail Color in Tenderly (Limited Edition), $27

Every season, the beauty world waits to see what colors Chanel will put out on the spring runway so every other nail brand can follow suit. This Tenderly is one of the three it colors of 2015 and a great option for keeping your lady’s toes looking spectacular. Help her paint them for added effect!


Nine West Danyell Ankle Strap Sandals, $109

You may not realize this, but women LOVE SHOES. I don’t know why men don’t gift them more often! Get her a stunning strappy pair of sandals for summer, take her out in them for Mother’s Day and when everyone comments on how gorgeous her shoes are, she can say they came with a free foot rub! These Nine West Danyell Ankle Straps have been walking off the shelves. They come in three colors and are bang on trend for the season.

From now until Mother’s Day, we are exclusively offering our foot rub course for free with any purchase of Melt: Massage for Couples. Click here for all the details or to buy now.