Unfair Advantage

90 Second : Short Class

What I teach is clean – even the breast massage classes which includes nudity have been filmed tastefully and therapeutically.

It’s normal and healthy for couples use massage for sex

USE THIS! No one else on the planet can give your partner this experience. It’s your unfair advantage.

Below is an example of a massage that started as therapeutic but quickly switched and this is normal.

  • Relationships need play
  • It’s healthy for connection
  • Use massage to bring more fun into your relationship

THIS VIDEO CONTAINS NO NUDITY
THE CONVERSATION INCLUDES ADULT THEMES

THIS VIDEO IS MUTED, UNMUTE TO HEAR SOUND

Be Playful and Cheeky

Increase desire, build anticipation, and play with your partner. Delay gratification, let your partner work for it, and let them yearn for it.

When you find yourself here, spend time playing with it see where it goes.

I film all my massages (it helps me learn). This is an unscripted / improvised massage that was meant to challenge the theory of why I hate massaging on the bed.

How Do I Start?

  • Set A Date

    I know this takes the spontaneity out of massage but it works!

    • Set a date and time (ask your partner to agree – save the date)
    • Gather oil, towels, iPad (to watch Melt on), and any other tools needed in the middle of the room earlier that day
    • Stay accountable, otherwise it’s easy to skip it.

  • agree on intentions

    Agree on why you’re sharing a massage today, it really does help! A team effort.

    Share what’s in your head with your partner, open up so they understand your needs. And more importantly, listen to their needs. Do you want this massage to be:

    • For learning and exploration?
    • To connect and bond?
    • To relax and unwind?
    • Is playfulness allowed?
    • Will sex be an option?
    • (Add your own parameters)

This takes the spontaneity out of your massage but it gives you a framework that will guide you both – it doesn’t always have to be this way but in the beginning when you’re on the same page the massage is more rewarding.

Rules are meant to be broken

Also, spontaneity can be added back into the massage (watch the video).

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how to RUIN a massage

4-ways to ruin a massage: Receiver Edition

  • Don’t Engage

    • Lay there silent
    • Be inactive
    • Do not be playful

  • Don’t Give Direction

    • OMG, that feels good! Don’t say that.
    • I’m loving that. Don’t give that encouragement.
    • You’ve hit the right spot! Never say things like that.

  • Pick At Your Partner’s Massage

    I’ve seen this happen in live workshops and it’s horrible to hear. You’ll definitely ruin all chances of future massages by nit-picking at your partner’s technique.

  • Don’t Be Grateful

    Showing no gratitude is a fantastic way to ruin your partner’s confidence and their massage.